Don't Tell Her He's Cheating

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So let’s say hypothetically you happen to be out and about then notice a familiar face in the crowd. It’s your girlfriend’s bf. You get excited, quickly searching the immediate area around him for her. Only you notice that most peculiar thing. She’s nowhere to be found. In fact, her bf is now getting up close and personal with some woman who is not his girlfriend. And to make matters worse you have just become witness to the two of them sucking face & grabbing a handful of butt cheek. Congratulations. You have just walked into a land mine.

In situations like this you’d wish that you had just looked a few minutes later, or in a different direction or just about anything else! Maybe then we wouldn’t currently be battling with the dilemma of whether or not to tell our friend that her bf is a two-faced-lying-manipulative-pigheaded-no-good- cheater or take this secret to the grave. Well let me help you with the decision: take it to the grave. Here’s why:

1. She’s not going to believe you anyway. It doesn’t matter if you two have been best friends since diapers, a woman in lust/like/love will believe her bf over you any day
2. You’ll end up losing a friend. She will call you a liar and promptly accuse you of trying to sabotage her relationship
3. You’ll make an enemy. As a matter of fact make that two, because once the bf finds out what you told his gf, he’ll hate your guts.
4. She could be the other woman. There’s a slight possibility your friend is the other woman in which case you have opened a huge can of worms!

There is simply no way you can get out of this situation unscathed. I’ve almost never heard a story that came out with all parties happy. Furthermore, we have to really put ourselves in the situation. (Here’s your opportunity to take off your left shoe and place it on your right foot). How pleasant would you feel if a friend or stranger were to tell you that the man you’ve been dating is a cheater? My first inclination would be to slap them or him or somebody! Well …maybe not, because that is certainly not lady like behavior. But the point is that it would not be received well.

It is not our place to deliver that information. I am reminded of the adage “Don’t kill the messenger.” In the end, isn’t the messenger always the first person to be attacked? Save yourself the drama and hold your tongue. These things usually have a way of coming out on their own. In most cases the woman is well aware there are problems in the relationship in which case it will come to its own natural termination.

However, there are those pesky instances where the bf never gets caught and the gf is none the wiser. I’m dying to know if anyone knows of some intricate ways to let her know without letting her know you were the messenger. Love to hear your ideas below!

Enjoy

xxx