Don't you ever notice that once when we acquire a new companion in our lives, our friends start to disappear? A sad but true study at Oxford University stated that every time we get a new man in our lives we lose two of our friends. This is disheartening because it truly shows the sacrifices made in relationships everyday. But is being in a relationship worth losing friends? What are the long term effects of doing this in our lives?
Last night while I was watching Jersey Shore (yes I know, I'm not proud of it) one of the cast members totally isolated herself. Why? Because her once friends expressed a dislike for her boyfriend. To top it off her relationship with her boyfriend was not the best. She is well aware he has cheated on her and verbally abused her on occasion. Unhealthy relationship aside, the point is that she chose to make enemies of her friends so she can have someone to cuddle up with at night. Unfortunately she now leads an extremely boring life where her days consists of following her boyfriends like a stray cat. Now I can't blame her for being a sucker for love. When in a relationship, we tend to view the world in a whole new light. But our rose colored shades tend to turn people we once valued into foes. With relationships as detrimental as this, we eventually end up losing not once, but three times: two friends and a boyfriend.
So it all bundles down to this, losing a friend or two when we are in a relationship is to be expected. Not all our friends are going to favor our bf's and that should be accepted. But we need to be careful not to dismiss those friends when they are looking out for our best interests.
Enjoy
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