Always an Ex, Never a Friend

When people who were once lovers decide to become friends I seriously question whether or not these two individuals were ever interested in each other to being with. Granted, I am a firm believer that love is ultimately defined differently by each person, I truly believe that love never fades. The fact that two individuals who made a conscious decision to terminate their relationship decide to magically become friends (regardless of the intense feelings the had for one another) seems highly suspicious, and dare I say a bit mad.

Perhaps they possess a sense of brilliance that I have yet to acquire, or perhaps both parties involved are in denial of the situation they are putting themselves in. When ex lovers agree to be friends, they either never had a romantic interest in each other or are holding onto the belief that one day they will become an item again.

To me this situation is a breeding ground for plethora of negativity such as jealousy and insecurity to start with. If you don't believe a word of what I say just close your eyes for a moment and imagine your "friend" talking to someone new. Imagine them smiling from ear to ear because they've just received an endearing text message that didn't come from you but from their new love interest. Imagine them embraced in the arms of another creating memories and living life without you. Feel that flush in your face? It's called envy my dear. It is the reason why I strongly believe that ex lovers can only be friends if there never truly was any chemistry between the two.

Now if you do still hold a torch for your ex and have reluctantly agreed to befriend them, I implore you to reconsider. We all know that a situation like this is just a slippery slope. If you've never experience jealousy before, you will come to know it well throughout that relationship. Spare yourself the misery and be honest with your true intentions aka your desire to rekindle the romance. Instead of being evasive, be forth coming and let the other party know exactly where you want to be in their life. Period. The results will vary, and I cannot guarantee a happy ending but it beats holding your breath filled with expectations that may never be met. The most honorable thing one can do for themselves is not to become immersed in a lie for the sake of preserving an already dead relationship.

I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Enjoy
xxx